As most warm blooded females I know would agree, hair is an entire entitity of its own. I am not my hair, because my hair has its own personality, life and agenda. Lets start from the basics, me and my sister are both from Dominican background (obviously -same parents) and unfortunately/fortunately (not quite sure which one) we were blessed/cursed with extremely different types of hair. Both naturally curly & thin, my sister Gwen has softer locks and oily nature while I have dry extremely tight coiled curls. I relaxed my hair to make it permanently straight for about ten years or so and just recently finished growing out all the chemical damage done to it. I have been relaxer free for about 2.5 years now and it has grown out completely leaving me with my natural wild curls (that I occasionaly tame to make straight only using mild heat). Since Ive never had to take care of my own natural hair before (it was in my moms care as a child) I had no idea how to style and maintain my recessitated curls. I took to the internet, youtube and blogs to learn how to care and manage for my fragile locks and learned so much! I have a new found appreciation for my hair type and although I do have my days where I cant deal with it, there are other times where I can fully appreciate its range and potential. Walking into any dominican salon has always been a daunting task, but now especially more since many have not yet realized that its ok to wear my hair its in natural state. I dont have to get rid of these curls by flattening and chemically altering them, but instead I can work with what I have and restore my hair to its healthiest state before all the crazy self inflicted damamge. Here is somewhat of a timeline of looks throughout the years from pre relaxer all the way down to today. I was not aware that I would be partaking in this”journey” so my photos arent chronically time stamped like lots of females growing out their hair, but I did the best in compilating the progress and change over time.
This was not easy and I wanted to just give up at times and go ahead and relax it. I am so glad I didnt! I still have the option to straighten it (using a blow dryer or flat iron) and also the choice to go curly as well. Having the luxury to do both is what some folks pray for and I am glad I got the chance to right my wrongs and appreciate both sides. My hair is shinier, stronger and above all healthier.
Stay tuned for a post on the products Ive come to love and discover for curly dry hair!